Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Some conversations from this week

Well I guess I will go ahead and get my proudest parenting moment from this week off of my chest.



My 5th grader walks up to me in the hall the other day and says, 



Hey Mom
Me: Yes Dear
5th Grader: You will not believe what you did in my lunch! 
Me: Um what?
5th Grader: You left the plastic on my cheese in my sandwich.
Me: How did you find that out?
5th Grader: I bit into it.
Me: Oops 

This same 5th grader fell down REALLY hard off of a stool while sitting at the kitchen counter and smacked her neck on the counter top. She and I were both on the floor looking at it and she was crying and so on and so forth. 

Me: (To 2nd grader and Kindergartner) Guys - go get an ice pack please
2nd Grader and Kindergartner: (scrambling) I am ON it!!!!!!! 

Then minutes later 
Kindergartner: So um Mom - could you turn on the television for me - you know - when this crisis is over?  
Compassionate little dude isn't he? 

This week I subbed for the music teacher. The kids and I were talking about it: 
2nd Grader: So Mom - you can teach music? 
Me: Sure - no problem - I would say I am pretty comfortable with most anything at school. 
2nd Grader: But NOT PE - right Mom?
Me: True that Baby Girl. True that...... 




Sunday, October 14, 2012

A Time of Transition and Yes - the Bowheads Blog is still alive!!!!

Well my friends,

To say that the last month or two (or three or four) has been crazy would be a bit of an understatement. The summer flew by - I mean literally flew by. I was trying to enjoy it and we went to Africa and all.

Still feels strange saying that - yep - went to Africa and all.....

Anyway - I was VERY concerned about my mental well being when the baby started Kindergarten. I was worried that I would be bored. I was worried that I would be sad. I was worried that I would be lonely.

So I decided that I would finish my Masters degree. (That I had started and was about to finish when we were surprised by aforementioned babies birth.)

You know - so I wouldn't be bored or sad or lonely.......

Then I decided that I would take on a part time work from home job managing my kids Club soccer team. (You know - emailing out reminders, answering parents questions, helping keep the coaches organized etc.)

You know - so I wouldn't be bored or sad or lonely.......

Then I decided that I would go ahead and take all of the tests to teach in Massachusetts. (Stinking Massachusetts - no reciprocity...)

You know - so I wouldn't be bored or sad or lonely......

Then I decided that I would go ahead and start substitute teaching (only at my kids school and only a few days a week).

You know - so I wouldn't be bored or sad or lonely.......

Then I decided that I REALLY like substitute teaching and they, in fact, seem to be fans of me so I have been up at school - a lot.

You know - so I wouldn't be bored or sad or lonely.............


Well guess - what?


I am NOT bored or sad or lonely 

I am
in fact
In the Weeds.

I have also remembered that I am, in fact, a teacher. I love being a teacher and I am good at being a teacher. 

That has been the most liberating thing for me to say to myself. My entire self worth is not wrapped up in my husband and my children. 

They are absolutely the center of my world and my number one priority but it turns out,

they are not the only thing that I am good at. 

I can't tell you how much more sane I am for having figured that out. 

That said, I am also figuring out some other stuff. 

Like: 
How to cook with your crockpot when you are gone during the time that you normally put your crock pot meals together. Do I start it at 8:30 on low or 3:30 on high? I have really mucked up some trusty recipes figuring that one out.


How to manage having three children in elementary school and all of the organization that entails. I have figured out a GREAT mudroom paper/keep up with library books etc system that I really will blog about soon. 

The best news is

I am not lonely or bored or sad. 

 and that 

at the end of the day

is really awesome.





Wednesday, September 5, 2012

A Birthday Birth Story - just a little late



Well - I have to say - I am basically in shock and denial that my baby boy is SIX! I like to retell their birth stories each year on their special day and well - here is another special day. (
I guess I should begin with how we came to have him in the first place. Sorry if this is too much information but this is basically a story that is tossed around at family functions quite a bit anyway so I want to go ahead and tell it here so that I have it down on paper er I mean computer somewhere. :)

We were a very happy little family of four and we talked about maybe trying for a third one day but we were certainly not looking to add on to our family at that time. It was Christmas Eve 2005 and we were celebrating, as is our custom, at my Sister in Law's house. We were enjoying some good food and family fun and I was enjoying an adult beverage. I raised my glass and said, for the universe to hear,
"I am having the BEST time. This is the first Christmas in forever that I have not been pregnant or breastfeeding!!!!!!!"
Fastforward to one week later - yes - one week later - New Years Eve - I knew I was pregnant.
The Buddy's pregnancy was nothing like my pregnancies with my girls. I pretty much knew this one was different from the beginning. I had a small puddle of blood that was sort of pooling between my uterus and abdominal wall and had to go for a BUNCH of ultrasounds. I was also supposed to be careful about lifting things (yeah right with a 4 yr old and a 2 yr old).
When it was time to go in for my 3D Ultrasound at 20 weeks I took my oldest daughter (then age 4) with me. She was very good and we found out that our baby was a baby boy. I had her call Husband and he picked up and she said,

"Hi Daddy - guess what? It is a boy baby!!!!"
We moved in May of that year - once again - pretty much a whipping to be 6 months pregnant with a 4 year old and a 2 year old and move but - we were actually doing pretty good!
Then - it happened -
the dreaded P.U.P.P.S rash.
I went ahead and made that a link if you are interested in it but basically it is a terrible itchy red painful rash that goes across your big sore pregnant belly and in the creases of your arms and legs.
Now - not to beat this point to death BUT - here I was - new town, a 4 year old and a 2 year old (have I mentioned that?), August, in Texas, 110 degree heat with a terrible painful rash.
I tell you -
talk about being trapped in your own body and life -
pretty miserable I will say.
Positives - my husband and the girls were really great and those two little girls were so sweet and good to their Momma - I will never forget that.
Anyway - my doctor wanted to induce me on August 27th. I said
"no way am I am having a boy in Texas in August"

(the cut off for school here is September 1st and he was not due until the 16th so I felt very strongly about this point).
September 2nd came and we headed off to the hospital for the third time at 5 o clock in the morning to be induced. Things went pretty smoothly and my husband went to go grab some lunch. The nurse came in to check me and I had gone from a 5 to a 9 REALLY fast so I had to call him - "Honey - come back FAST!"
My doctor (who is the GREATEST) came in - checked me and we told him that my husband would be back in just a second. He said, "ok good - I need to go to the bathroom anyway and you guys can wait a minute - perfect" and off he went. I had this crazy urge to call after him -
"be sure and wash your hands"
but anyway......
Husband came rushing back in and it was time to meet the Little Buddy.
That is when I heard my doctor say,
"oh, oh, well, ok, well, he is ok"
and then he said something like, "I want to send that off to the lab."
I cannot really describe what that split second of fear felt like but I can tell you it was so tangible that I remember what it tasted like.
We were told that he had one single knot in his umbilical cord and two double knots in his umbilical cord and the entire thing was wrapped around his neck. My Doctors exact words (and I will never forget them) were,
"he is destined for greatness - he really should not be here - I have really never seen this and have it turn out ok. I just lost one like this at 37 weeks."
We induced him at 37 and a half weeks. He was 7lbs 8 ounces and he was perfect.
Everytime I think about it.
Everytime I think about how close we came to losing him I get a chill.
I thank God each and every day for that terrible, awful rash!
I kept asking, "are you sure he is ok? He is really ok?" and he was.
That night - in the hospital room - I felt a sense of euphoria that I really had never felt and have not felt since. I could not sleep - all I could do was sit up and watch my sweet baby boy.

And now 

That baby is 6 and just started KINDERGARTEN!!!!!!!!! 

Sigh -  need time to slow down. 



Tuesday, August 21, 2012

Longest Title Ever - Day 8 Africa - Lions, a Village, The Serengeti, and visiting the Kenya/Tanzania border - also knows as - "The Day My Son Rolled Around in Poop" (Poop pictures all the way at the end of this post so scroll down)

Here is my own little monkey trying to break into my tent.

Giraffes

Giraffes

and more giraffes - it was at this point in the trip that my kids were like "yep - giraffe - been there done that"
(Still amazing mind you.)
This was pretty funny. There was a wild goose chase looking for a cheetah and everyone was staring at a rock for forever and the cheetah was probably a mile away. Our driver thought it was pretty funny. 
 Giraffe crossing





 Just a couple of lions - out for a stroll. The male lion was one of the last that we wanted to see and had not seen so we were happy to find these two on the last day. 

 This is vultures, a hyena and a jackal over a kill. 
 The lions walking by. Their belly's were full and they just marched slowly across this big stretch of grass and everyone (animals and people in cars) just held their breath and watched. 







 They completely ignored all of the other animals but the other animals were FROZEN on alert watching them. 

 I kept taking pictures of the other vehicle. The one time that my middle child rode with them I kept taking her picture. She thought that was funny. 





 So these guys stood in a line like soldiers and did not move a muscle just watching the lions walk across. 


























 What? I am not doing anything.
 ok - you are right - I have a leg - but it was totally dead when I got there....

 You see anything dead dude? 
Nope. You?
Said the Hyena to the Vulture



I thought this was interesting - these guys put mud on their horns to make them seem bigger. ;) 










 You remember the Sesame Street song - There is a bird on me?
 So this guy was actually feeling aggressive and really shook his head at us. We scooted right on by. Our driver said that he was looking for a little female companionship. 

 We come in Peace! 

 I gotta look up at what this was. 
 Last time at the old hippo watering hole.....






 Then we went on a really long (I don't know how long - maybe 30 minutes or an hour?) drive. When we got there we were told that we had made it to the Kenya/Tanzanian border. 
 And we got to see the Serengeti 
 I have never been to the Serengeti so I found this interesting. 
 My children - not so much. We busted out some electronics at this portion of the trip. 
 We did get to see Wildabeasts which was one of the last on our list. 
 These stones mark the border.
 When they migrate this entire field is COVERED in animals. 

 They do run around a lot




 Wildabeast. They were sure standing behind the door when God was passing out the good looks. That is for sure. 

 Our driver Alice teaching us about the Great Migration
 All 5 of us on the Kenya/Tanzanian border








 My Sister in Law, Brother in Law, Niece and Nephew - love this picture!



 This is a sausage tree (because of the way that it's fruits look and it can make alcohol! 

 Goodbye Tanzania! 
 We were driving back to camp and there was a pride just laying there - right on our way back. Of course we stopped and took a bunch of pictures. 




















 Eating a warthog head. 














 The last couple of days of our trip the kids got to go with a Masai warrior and Purity and do stuff like shoot arrows and make fire. There are actually a bunch of cute pictures of this on our other camera (with 800 pictures on it that I have not even started to sort through - one day I will get to it I am sure.)


























 I heart Husband





 "Hey kids - scoot to the left so I can get the warthog in the picture...."







 Driving to another village to visit.

































Teaching us their ways
 Making fire























 For the last night, they took us to the top of a mountain and had a happy hour for just our family.































 So this night wound up being listed as one of the children's top three best moments of the trip.

Because of the beautiful sunset you ask? No
Because of the amazing family time wrap up? No

Because my 5 year old son fell in poop. 

I am going to let the pictures tell the story but the kids were playing. He fell in poop (not sure what kind - we think cow) and then he proceeded to try to wipe himself off on grass and then run around with his shirt off and basically make the entire group including our drivers and safari guides laugh hysterically. The pictures toward the end start to get a little shaky because I am trying to manage laughing until I cry, a glass of wine, and my camera but I am was able to capture the moment by just clicking away furiously. 












































 An amazing last night.